Monday, March 2, 2009

Typical Male*

When were at my grandfather's memorial service, I thought I was holding it together pretty well, but there were times that I did break down and cry.

I held it together while a good family friend spoke and gave the biography of his life.

I teared up when my aunt spoke about him from the perspective as a father/step-father figure and Olivia noticed and immediately came to give me a hug and kiss. Jake just looked at me.

I held it together until the very end of my talk when I did choke up a bit and when I came back to my chair Olivia was waiting for me with open arms and another big kiss. Again, Jake just looked at me and asked to play with Dave's iphone.

I mostly held it together when my cousin sang "Did you ever know that your my Hero?" and comforted my other aunt who was crying since I don't think that I have ever seen her cry before.

I wanted to melt into the stage as my sister, cousin and I led a sing-along of "sing, sing a song" after only 20 minutes of practice together. That made me want to cry.

I totally, completely LOST it when the Marines presented my grandmother with the American flag for my grandfather's service in WWII (he fought in Normandy on D-Day!) and totally sobbed out loud. She was so grateful, and just kept saying thank you, over and over and you could just hear how grateful she was in her voice. Sure enough, Olivia came right over with her sweet hugs and kisses. Jake? Not so much.

When it was all over, Jake asked Dave why I was crying so much. (So much for me thinking that I had held it together so well)

Dave asked him, "Jake, why do you think we are here?"

Jake: I don't know why we are here daddy!

sigh.


*I know I am totally stereotyping the cluelessness of the male gender. It's my blog and I'll stereotype my son if I want to. He's blond too so it could go that way too! hee hee!

11 comments:

Gregg said...

As a pseudo-musician, I've played at TONS of funerals.

It never even matters if I knew the person or not, if a family member gets up and gives a memorial/remembrance speech, I will completely lose it. That's right, I'm a crier!

Sometime, you'll have to ask my wife about the very hardest one we ever did - she was SINGING.

Anna See said...

Sounds like a lovely service. My son is the more sensitive one... for NOW at least.

Helen E.M. Wright said...

I'm sorry about your grandfather. Isn't it crazy how everyone reacts differently. 2 years a go at my grandfather's funeral I spoke...it helped me. My brothers thought I was nuts, although I did a good job! Maybe, you're on to something! ;)

Momisodes said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like it was a lovely service and he was surrounded by many loved ones.

It is amazing how some people react so differently. My husband is also incredibly stoic (and clueless) at times.

DysFUNctional Mom said...

You gotta love the oblivious-ness of a male. (I'm sure that's not a word, but it is now)
I am so impressed that you held up through all of that!

Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

Aw. He must have been so confused.
Holding you in my heart.

Mrs4444 said...

The part that choked me up at my dad's (also a WWII vet) wake was the fact that when we arrived, there was a man in full-dress uniform, standing at attention at the entrance, "watching over" Dad's service, if you will. Just lost it.

Mrs4444 said...

BTW, I'm grateful for your grandpa's service to our country. I'm sure your grandma will take great comfort in that flag, too.

Holly said...

First, I want to thank your father for his service to his country, and therefore, to all of us.

Ah, men. They really can be quite clueless, can't they!? :-)

Amazingly enough, it is our daughter who would probably sit there stone faced, and wonder what everyone's problem was.

It would be our son who would not be able to hold it together.

Funnily enough, she takes after her Dad in many other personality traits as well, and the boy takes after me.

Melinda Zook said...

Awww, I hear you. Men usually have a way of blocking out emotions all around them. So sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you are hanging in there.

Monkey's Momma said...

When my grandpa died, my uncle played the guitar and sang, "The Old Rugged Cross", then we played the song, "Grandpa, Tell Me 'Bout The Good Old Days" by the Judds. I was a mess the entire time.

One brother sat beside me hyperventilating, and the other looked at us both like we were crazy (they were both in their 20's at the time).