Um, yeah.
So I totally want to kick this kid's derriere, but since he is only in first grade, I'm calling the teacher instead. I think I can still do that without causing further mental anguish. Jacob has decided to not give the boy the valentine....I think he made a good choice. One, to write it out, two, to not give it to him, and three to talk to his mommy about it.
*Translation if you can't read first grader handwriting: I hope you won't tease me anymore. From Jacob To "The Boy"
So I totally want to kick this kid's derriere, but since he is only in first grade, I'm calling the teacher instead. I think I can still do that without causing further mental anguish. Jacob has decided to not give the boy the valentine....I think he made a good choice. One, to write it out, two, to not give it to him, and three to talk to his mommy about it.
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That makes me want to say bad, bad words. And it also breaks my heart.
OH my....my heart sank as I read the note...WOW...what a wonderful, strong, bright young man you have - he certainly made 3 good choices.
WOW.
Oh, Jacob is so smart. How great to write his feelings down and get them out and to talk to you about it. Good for you for calling the teacher, I hate that kids start teasing other kids so young. There is a name-caller/teaser/bully in Braden's pre-K room. Where do they learn this stuff? I always thought from older sibs, but the kid in B's room is an only child. Keep us posted on how the teacher responds.
Wow - how wonderful that he wrote this out - in a sweet, good way. He is obviously a much better at handling things than the bully is. Good for him. Good for you for raising such a caring boy.
Good for him! And good for you staying all calm and zenlike about it. I'd want to wring his little neck too!
I'm always worried my Kindergartener is going to get picked on and not tell anyone, cause he's just like that. Very easily embarrassed.
That is so sad...I forgot how hard the 'little' years can be..I remember the crappy teenage school years, but .. poor little guy!
~K
Oh, that made my heart crunch... your boy is just amazingly sweet.
that totally brought on the tears.
yes ... your boy made 3 marvelous choices.
good for you for raising a good one.
see what kids learn when their moms write blogs?? they learn to write it down and get it out!
ouch...that makes my heart hurt, kids can be so mean.
I had a whole comment typed out and it dumped it. I hate when that happens! LOL
I want to give him a big hug, so give him one for me please!!
Joey had a bully, older than him in the neighborhood. I had NO idea, he kept a lot from me, I found out more and more after the situation exploded. I had my doubts but I had NO idea.
It changed Joey in many ways and not for the good.
I'm so glad Jacob wrote it out so you know about it and can intervene, it can be such a life changing experience for kids and it can become very dangerous.
It's so much worse for sensitive, loving, kids who see everyone as their friend even when they aren't.
Again give him a BIG hug from me!!
Holly heck....grrrrr.
BTW - I could totally read his writting, w/ Rylan being is 2nd grade the writting style is similar.
Great job on Jacob's part, keep us posted on what the teacher says..
Mean kids suck!!!
I am tempted to drive to St. Louis and give that little kid a piece of my mind. How dare he talk to my nephew like that!?!
How heartbreaking. Kids can be so mean. Then they grow up to mean people. Who suck.
On a related note, I've given you a blog award, in part, because your blog shows "...effort to transmit cultural, ethical, literary, and personal values with each message they write." This post is a prime example of that.
oh, how heart breaking!
That breaks my heart, poor Jacob. I worry about this with my own. I've seen the preliminary stages with some boys at his PRESCHOOL and I'm trying to teach him that he sometimes needs to stand up for himself WHILE taking the higher road. He can be a pushover and I'm trying to help him find a balance.
As far as that Valentine goes, I think you are raising him well!
aw! What a sweetheart he is. Poor kid, glad you are being proactive!
In first grade?!?! I swear things are happening earlier and earlier. I hope that teacher gives that bully what he deserves!
It's striking that Jacob would choose the valentine as his forum to express true feelings. How many other kids would just write something silly. I know my boys have some teasing ahead of them (if not already). I hope they take the communication route instead of tough guy reaction that can often happen.
That almost wants to make you kick some Momma ass!!!!
Awww... that made me so sad. But wow that he would share it as a Valentine, it's almost like offering a truce in a sense.... sort of like offering kindness and hoping the other child will respond as well. Touching, very touching. And equally, that he would share it with you. And yes - take it up with the teacher. I don't have children, but if I did ~ I'd want to kick butt too!!!
OK, so my eyes are watering. I want to hug Jacob.
And get a posse together to kick some 1st grade booty.
OK. I don't want to do that. That would be bad and wrong. But, I know what it is like to be teased. It sucks. And it stays with you. BUT, being that he has you and is getting it out, he's gonna be OK. The same can't be said for a little boy who resorts to teasing others. I hope his mama catches on . . .
Big hugs to Jacob . . . and you, mama.
I think I could make out who the bully was on the Valentine. Bryce (and Nate for that matter) have told me things about this student so I could have guessed. The bully is very high strung from what I saw when I was in the classroom teaching my Junior Achievement lesson last week. I was ecstatic that our kids were in a class where we didn't have "those" problems, but not so. Maybe I should give up my hope of a year without mean kids.
Oh that just breaks my heart. Jacob is such a sweetie. So glad he felt he could talk to you...
And being that I've got a first grader too, I could easily read that note. Jacob's got really nice handwriting!
That is just one reason I am glad that I homeschool. Doesn't it break your heart?
Oh, how heartbreaking. :( I'm so glad you're dealing with this and that he was able to talk to you about it.
I'm in awe of your ability not to hunt down the little jackass and his mom. I am not as cool as you.
For example, I keep thinking you shouldn't give the bully a card at all (wrong, I know) or you should make him some big special valentine-looking trophy, but it reads "Nobody-loves-you-cause-you're-a-mean-little-jackass" Award. (Yeah, wrong again.)
Jacob did everything right here. Everything. And you are doing it all right too.
Someday, a girl is going to choose your sweet Jacob over that meanie. And THAT will be Jacob's Valentine's Day revenge. Bwwahaha.
Now go give that slacker teacher a piece of your mind!
You know that most public schools have very strict rules about bullying now... hard to enforce sometimes... but the awareness level of how deeply affecting bullying can be has empowered the teachers with ability to take action now instead of the old "they'll grow out of it" attitude that existed in schools for years..
Just a positive note on a most gut wrenching post.
You already know what a fabulous little man you are raising up. Grace, Grace Grace!
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